When he comes back a few seconds later, he tells me that we have a problem. He checks the closets and drawers without success. “Everything comes out eventually every deceptive foundation has an expiry date,” Faith said.In a hotel room in Las Vegas, a barefoot man in a red tracksuit is frantically searching through his luggage. The number of men coming out of the closet and declaring their sexual orientation is rising because, according to Mwangangi, society is increasingly allowing men to be who they really want to be. “Women cannot afford to ignore their primal instinct, choosing instead to try to stifle the gayness of the man with hope and love,” she says.
She notes that there is a large number of gay men running around purporting to be straight. If anything, there are quite a number of sexual practices they took from us.” It was not the white man who brought it here. Homosexuality did exist in traditional Africa. “History hides a lot of what went on in African traditional society. Mwangangi says it is not easy for gay people to declare their homosexuality because of fear of reprisal (some have been physically attacked) and rejection on grounds that such sexual orientation is 'unnatural and un-African'. But after a few sessions, she confessed that she had seen the signs and chosen to ignore them,” she says. “I have had a woman come to me and say she had no idea that her husband was gay. And more often than not, their wives know about it. Relationship counsellor and sexologist, Faith Mwangagi says there are many gay men who are married to women. After all, it happened to me,” he said.ĭespite an outward display of being a happy family man, deep inside Morris is afraid he may never find real love.Īs a 46-year-old gay man in a heterosexual marriage, he has resigned himself to meeting people who want to blackmail him with threats of exposing his secret something which he says has happened on three occasions or those not interested in a long-term relationship because he is too old. "If my children were gay, though, I would understand their situation and simply counsel them because I know that this happens. “So, what would you do if your children were gay?” The Star asked him. I also love my children and I can never think of telling them that their father, whom they look up to and love, is gay," he says. “We have not had sex in years, but I cannot leave her. Morris believes that she would find it difficult to confront that reality as she strongly condemns any hint of homosexuality in the church. He says his wife has her suspicions especially since she often asks him why most of his phone conversations are with men. He says he cannot socialise much because he does not want people to know his secret. The only people who know are those I have met along this walk or people I have had gay affairs with some even in the church." His sexuality, however, has remained a closely guarded secret. I was teaching the congregation about the abomination of a man sleeping with another man. Like any responsible father, he says he loves his children unreservedly and that his sexuality has not in any way affected his relationship with them.īut the guilt of living a lie was so overwhelming that Morris decided to leave the church. And 20 years and four children later, Morris is still married - and still gay.